Here are some of our favorite sayings and slogans:

• "What others think of me is none of my business"
  (What I think of you and what I think of me that's important!)
  
  
• When one door closes, another will open
  (But sometimes we spend a lot of time in the allway)
  
  
• How important is it? Is it worth giving my serenity away?
  
  
• Say how you feel, not what you think
  
  
• Ask yourself, "Is this mine to fix?" If it isn't broken, don't fix it
  
  
• Change the behavior and the attitude will follow
  (I have to put action into my program. I have to take care of myself to believe that I am worth taking care of)
  
  
• Fake it till you make it, then you got to face it
  (I can't go over my problems or under my problems. I have to work through them)
  
  
• If I am in fear - I forget I have choices
  
  
• If I am having difficulties, it helps to ask myself, "What step am I on?"
  (The answer is always step one)
  
  
• My sponsor gave me two responses to use when I am being blamed by the addict (or others):
  
  
  • "I may have been wrong but I forgive myself"
  • "I am sorry, but I am not that powerful"
  
  
  
• If someone says something you do not agree with simply reply, "I know you believe that"
  
  
• I have to take the risk of telling people honestly how I feel without any expectations of changing their havior
  
  
• I am allowed to have a full range of feelings. Feel the feeling for 15 minutes, then let it go. Anything over 15 minutes is self-indulgent
  
  
• Forgiveness is the realization that our past isn't getting any better
  
  
• We didn't cause it, we can't control it, and we can't cure it
  
  
• Take what you like and leave the rest
  
  
• Keep coming back!

Kilde: Nar-Anon of Northern Californias hjemmeside www.naranoncalifornia.org